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The battle of identity crises caused by social media and how it ruin relationships

As we sit here scrolling through our social media feed, we can’t help but feel a pang of inadequacy with each perfectly curated photo and polished caption.  It’s as though everyone else has it all figured out, while we’re left here grappling with our own insecurities and doubts.

We see the vacations in exotic locations, the glamorous parties, the picture-perfect families, and we can’t help but wonder: are we missing out? 

Are we not living our lives to the fullest? It’s a constant battle between who we are and who we feel pressured to be, all because of these carefully constructed illusions on our screens.

But the impact goes beyond just us. It seeps into our relationships, casting doubt and shadows where there should be love and trust. 

It leads to Identity Crises!

You know, an identity crisis is like that moment when you’re standing at a crossroads in life and you’re not quite sure which path to take. 

It’s when you start questioning everything about yourself – your values, your beliefs, even your goals. 

Social media tends to pour fuel on that fire by showing these perfectly curated lives that make yours seem dull in comparison. You start wondering if you measure up, if you’re good enough.

And it’s not just about feeling a bit down on yourself. This whole identity crisis thing can really mess with your relationships too. You might find yourself constantly seeking validation online instead of enjoying real connections with the people around you. Plus, all that comparing your relationship to others? 


It can stir up some serious jealousy and tension in your relationships.


How can we fully commit to each other when we’re constantly comparing our relationship to the curated romance of others? How can we build a solid foundation when we’re both chasing validation from strangers online?

The truth is, social media has become a double-edged sword, cutting through the fabric of our identities and relationships. It’s time for us to reclaim our authenticity, to embrace the messy, imperfect reality of ourselves and our connection. 

Only then can we break free from the shackles of comparison and cultivate a relationship built on genuine love, acceptance, and understanding.

But hey, it’s not all doom and gloom. There are ways to tackle this. First off, take some time to really get to know yourself – beyond the filters and hashtags. Set some boundaries with social media, you know, like limiting your scrolling time or unfollowing accounts that make you feel crappy. And most importantly, prioritize those face-to-face interactions with loved ones. Nothing beats real human connection when it comes to figuring out who you are and where you’re headed. 

And hey, if things get really tough, there’s no shame in reaching out to a therapist for some extra support. 

You got this!

Michael Adebisi Jacob


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